How To Love Yourself
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” –Lucille Ball
About 2 years ago I realized that I didn’t love myself nor did I know myself. So, I began my journey of self love and up until 3 months ago I thought I was doing really well. Then I fell flat on my face. It’s like when a baby starts to walk for the first time and keeps falling down. But eventually they do walk so that gives me hope!
What has become evident to me is that the amount of love you have for yourself is directly correlated to the amount of love you can give and receive. If you think you are unlovable you will be just that. You will be less understanding, compassionate, patient and more demanding, irritable and fearful. If you love yourself, your expectations of yourself and others are transformed into acceptance.
Two symptoms of a lack of self love are identification and clinging. We identify our self worth with things outside ourselves. Like a car, job, money and clothes. Self love doesn’t come from the outside. It comes from the inside. We can enjoy things but the second we rely on them to give us value, we are stepping into dangerous delusion. Clinging is when we become dependent on someone or something to fill our insecurities, the idea of loosing them is unimaginable. Therefore, the process of letting go becomes incredibly painful and is coupled with much suffering.
In this video, I discuses different tools that have helped me on my journey to self love. Please leave your comments. I read them all and love the feedback!