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Why Your Love Relationships Aren’t Working

Posted on by Giovanna

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

A lot of us are caught in a self destructive love cycle. We have failed after failed relationships. At some point we see that there is a pattern but we don’t know how to break the cycle and get what we truly want…TRUE LOVE. In this video I dive deep into the “love relationship” dynamic and why it consistently fails to meet our needs/desires.

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Giovanna

Giovanna Silvestre is the creator of the international yoga wear brand Confused Girl in the City and travel lifestyle influencer. Find me on Instagram @ConfusedGirlLA.

260 thoughts on “Why Your Love Relationships Aren’t Working”

  2. lemonlimelukey says:

    Mine is working perfectly. But then again I’m far along the self
    improvement path

  3. Fahad Al-Faris says:

    Hi , long time
    reason is very easy : we say in my mother lang.
    empty wheat spike rise straight up , while full ones bow down in modesty
    ….//// hope u understand ………………………

  4. Fahad Al-Faris says:

    there r 2 types of relations:
    genuine admiration and genuine love
    temoprary admiration for the sake of s*x only

  6. Gregor Tappa says:

    Ever hear of the saying familiarity breeds contempt? That’s apropos with
    the vast majority of relationships, love interest or not. Generally, the
    more I get to know a person the less I get to like them as the average
    person feels inclined to let their “true self” surface with time. Some
    longer than others. If a person is actively seeking a relationship in
    efforts to quantify their value and solidify themselves as sought after
    and desirable, they must first work on themselves.

  9. Orion Xavier says:

    I believe that quote “Your task is not to look for love, ..” is true in
    regards to Law of Attraction. We’re always attracting something, based on
    our thoughts. Our conscious thoughts tend to attract what we want, our
    subconscious thoughts tend to attract what we don’t want. It’s the
    subconscious thoughts which create that “barrier” to attracting what we
    *really* want.

    I believe true love is synergy. It’s two “parts” coming together to form
    something greater than the whole. When you truly love someone, you become
    something more than your self. For example, your perceptions and awareness
    increases in ways you never would have considered or imagined previously.

    I’m guessing your reference to the egoic mind is in regards to Eckhart
    Tolle’s teachings: The basis for your identity is precarious because
    thought and emotion are by their very nature ephemeral, fleeting. *So every
    ego is continuously struggling for survival*, trying to protect and enlarge
    itself. To uphold the I-thought, it needs the opposite thought of “the
    other.” The conceptual “I” cannot survive without the conceptual “other.”
    The others are most other when I see them as “enemies.”

    Eckhart also talks about “nonreaction”, which I have always practiced. It’s
    also in the writings of Marcus Aurelius:

    “Begin the morning by saying to thyself, I shall meet with the busy-body
    ,the ungrateful, arrogant, deceitful, envious, unsocial. All these things
    happen to them by reason of their ignorance of what is good and evil. But I
    who have seen the nature of the good that it is beautiful, and of the bad
    that it is ugly, and the nature of him who does wrong, that it is akin to
    me, not only of the same blood or seed, but that it participates in the
    same intelligence and the same portion of the divinity, I can neither be
    injured by any of them, for no one can fix on me what is ugly, nor can I be
    angry with my kinsman, nor hate him, For we are made for co-operation, like
    feet, like hands, like eyelids, like the rows of the upper and lower teeth.
    To act against one another then is contrary to nature; and it is acting
    against one another to be vexed and to turn away.”
    *-Marcus Aurelius, “The Meditations”*

  10. Johnny Paul says:

    I totally agree with the addiction vs. real Love theory. You do a great job
    with your vids.

  16. Lee Heselton says:

    You look lovely and amazing. I didnt watch the full video because I don’t
    really need to know much about this topic but I will totally check out your
    channel now and in the future. You seem like an amazing person and I hope
    that we can give each other advice on videos.

  18. latent1234 says:

    I read that co-dependency comes from a lack of self awareness. It stems
    with what you are saying in this video.

    I also heard that people fall out of love because they stop doing the
    things in the beginning of the relationship. I think this is also true. You
    start taking people for granted, much like much of us (?) take our family
    for granted and treat them more meanly than our best friends, even though
    everybody knows (with some exceptions) that your family is the most
    important, because you see them more often (assumption) than your best
    friends.

    It goes a bit with the idea of that you don’t find love but that you create
    love.

    Personally, best way for me to identify egoic addiction is the difference
    between how I feel when I get warm feelings for somebody and then later
    when I am alone. When the love cloud disappears you get grounded again. 😀

    ps: that scenery looks stunning
    edit: I had a long list of addictions and now I have to add egoic addiction
    to it, damn you! 😛

  21. Ricky Lee says:

    I like your personality, I like your channel and whatnot, but you want to
    make sure you’re looking at the camera and not at the view finder on the
    camera. 😀

  22. AnonamousPenguinKid says:

    I have not had anyone ask me to look at their channel in a long time, so
    thank you, I get excited when I find new channels, and when people
    communicate with me in general really.
    I think your videos are awesome, great job! Thanks for showing me!

  25. Emilia Beeg says:

    Hello! I saw your comment on my video. I think this is a great topic to
    discuss. I <3 your channel! And you just got a new subscriber!!!

  26. FingertipsofSteel says:

    Hi! I saw your comment on my video and I really enjoyed this video and will
    definitely be subscribing and checking out other videos on your channel!

  27. RandomMustacheMAC says:

    Thanks for commenting on my video 🙂 I’d love to give you my input, but I
    am only 11:) good luck on youtube, though. 😀

  28. Kathryn Northorp says:

    This video was great and I think really was a good idea to just touch base
    on and I really think this was just fabulous

  29. MICHELLE WHAT says:

    I really enjoyed watching this. I think your great, and you really are a
    talker, but that’s a good thing since it makes the video not-boring.

  31. Sariah's life says:

    Hello, i saw your comment and i really think this video is very helpful
    for people who are in relationships. This video is very informational and
    has good advice and i thank you again for commenting on my video.

  35. Kite Visionary says:

    This video is quite good, had a look at your other videos. You obviously
    have a really great personality, and the way you speak is good as its good
    your so confident. Keep doing what you’re doing. Lets both work hard to be
    better YouTubers, so we can have fun and so can all of our viewers

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