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How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship
How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship
The most significant relationship you can have is the one with yourself!
Many say that if you are jealous in a relationship, you are in the wrong relationship. This is the case most of the time but for the other small percentage of times, jealousy is maybe something you need to work on. It is definitely something I have struggled with in my past and I finally feel like I am coming out the other side.
The key thing to remember is that we do not own anyone. You can not control someone else. Control is just an illusion. You have to love in such a way that you and the other person feel completely free. If someone is being disrespectful, then you can walk away but you can’t control them.
In this video, I offer some insight into relationships and some tools for jealousy!
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How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship
I think this can be an extension of one of your more recent videos about
how to deal with assumptions.
I find that jealousy is an automatic reaction to our own automatic
reactions. What do I mean by this? Well, when we don’t know the full story,
or don’t trust the source, we come up with our own ideas. We then take
cues, however tiny, and use that as verification for our suspicions.
An example of this, is someone who has a partner, he has been coming home
later than usual. You don’t really know why, he hasn’t said anything about
seeing his friends, there doesn’t seem to be an issue in the family, he
hasn’t gotten dinner, he hasn’t gone shopping… so he must still be a
work… right? After a while, your trust in that idea might fade, and you
may conclude that he’s cheating. After that, it would be very easy to see
him just looking at someone else that’s longer than just a glance, and take
that as verification of him no longer loving you.
I hate when this happens
Your a positive influence bestie
you’re very perceptive
So you need to go out on a limb it seems 🙂
I would rather have a love interest exhibit some jealousy then none at
all!!!
From my experience, when a person has to belabor “I totally trust them”
they don’t. If they have to assert “I’m not jealous” they are.
You need to be with a great guy!!!! You are a gem!!!!!!! TOO GOOD!!!!! 😀
Do you wear heels often? lol awwww, man, if I had you . . .
I would NEVER get jealous, EVER !!! Cause I know there isn’t a single other
guy like me out there, I am very unique and different than everybody else,
and THAT’S where I know NO GIRL would be silly to leave me for some other
guy!!!
Hell my woman can flirt. You can flirt. You can dress how you want. You can
go for coffees 3 – 4 times a week with your girls. You can have guy
friends. You can go male strippers 😛 You can boss me around, OH BOY,
mannn… you can BOSS me AROUND any day sweetheart 🙂 I bet you can slap a
guy real hard in the face too, I see loads of feistiness in you 😛
You need a guy that will respect you. You need a guy that will know been
with you is a privilege, not a right!!!!!!
You need a guy that will love you for YOU !!!! And nothing else. No sex. No
blowjobs. Just love you FOR YOU !!!!!!!!
I am the man for you 😛 And hell, I am pretty sure I don’t have a chance, I
will probably not be your type in physical appearance. But I promise you,
if you and I were a couple, oh man, you would like it A LOT !!!!! I’ll even
consider a make over ;P LMFAO ! Sorry to start with all of these type of
messages lol they were pretty normal the year before lol, but, you get
cuter and sexier. And your videos get loads better. And it’s hard not to
want you 🙂 lol that’s all 😛 I am shocked you don’t have more hits.
SHOCKED !!!!!!! Jenna has nothing on you. I hate Jenna. Over rated fucken
cow. HATE HER !!! She has a good throat!!! Good for deept… ah never mind
😛 She’s ONLY good for showing her tits and her throat and her ass in
exercise mimicking videos. She has SOME, S O M E ok videos but nowhere near
grants her several million fucken hits each and every week. FUCK HER
!!!!!!! You are much better. And you have a better neck than Jenna anyway.
Jenna just exposes her’s up close with the camera with her tits out and
about and with her dog inside one of them. We need to upen your hits sweety
🙁 I really think we should make a Skype show, a comedy one. You and I
would be perfect for it. Cause its so different. A guy with hair all over
his body and a shaved head with a visible bald patch and a beard like he
came outta the mongolian desert is chatting with a bombshell fine as hell
glamorous chick from Los Angeles, here’s the real kicker, you are also an
actress and have been in stuff. We will position u as a celebrity and here
I am, in Australia, a nobody really. A dreamer who wants to make it in the
filming industry over in the U.S, and here I am talking with a hot drop
dead stunning actress from California? WHAT IN THE
FUCKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!! People will JUMP all over it 😀 ALL OVER IT !!!!
Mainly abusing the hell outta me from sheer WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK type of
jealousy. With jealousy comes pure hatred, and with pure hatred . . . comes
VIEWERS 😀 It will work 😛 We can be like Jenna and Julian, only difference
is Julian GET’S THROAT LOLLL, lucky fucken asshole 🙁 lol but, hey . . . I
get your smile 🙂 I deff win 😛 xox
Another really good video I enjoyed. You are a natural presenter. Sort of a
combo between a future talk show host and a spiritual guide. I think in
this video how your so easily able to wave to your friend and keep the
presentation flowing while keeping the audiences attention is a testament
to your presentation skills. You have a bright on camera future and it’s
just starting. Oh yeah and that Irish jealously thing, your right on about
this topic too. Jake
Yes, a good place to look for the cause of problems is yourself. Smart
suggestion to use a mantra.
LOL 2:44
Relationships begin with trust. But what IS trust? Let’s just consider the
full meaning for a moment:
“Firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or
something.”
Good relationships are built on trust. Jealousy only occurs *because you
never trusted them.*
The problem is in how people come to that “firm belief” that someone is
trustworthy. Some, base it on their hopes and desires, which in turn create
expectations. You hope and want to believe someone is trustworthy,
regardless if they’ve earned that trust. Others, connect with each other
through their thoughts and feelings; through intimacy. They understand and
accept one another, which creates trust. But trust is less important, than
the process that creates it.
Love is not trusting someone not to betray you, it’s knowing that betrayal
is impossible. That you understand or accept one another to such a degree,
that anything you say or do is okay. (Or better than okay..)
I awakened last year and became aware of an entity that I don’t identify as
my body/mind/emotion, yet claims to be me. It got my attention by
disrupting my 5 senses and throwing number patterns and way too many
coincidences for me to write off. In this time I started seeing colors
around people that seem to reflect their emotions. For example pink is
loving while dark red is anger. And light green seems to be healing while
dark green is jealousy. When you consider the phrases “red with anger” or
“green with envy” you realize we were all once psychic but have forgotten,
and are remembering once again after 2012.
The plot thickens after research reveals emotions match certain brain
waves. This reveals all emotions are subsets of love and fear. This ranks
jealousy as a type of fear, and not fear of what’s outside of you either…
If the trust has been broken because of cheating and the you agree to work
it out.. but the partner who broke the trust is not doing their part to
regain the trust then jealousy is justified. If you are jealous before the
person ever did anything to break trust then you are probably need to fix
your emotions and seek help for yourself. Trust is key.. trust once broken
can be really hard to get back but not impossible. If you are jealous of
him viewing porn then you have to decide if he or she is right for you.
Setting boundaries is healthy you don’t have to tolerate it if you choose.
I checked my email and noticed you left a message or comment to my
Superstition Mountains video saying you wanted to know what I thought about
this video. I went and clicked on the my video and noticed your comment was
not there…I think I’m a little confused lol. I watched your video and
thought it was pretty good. After being cheated on three times in a row I
was once jealous for a few years. At the time I also had a large cyst
hanging off of my Fallopian tube due to being on the birth control pill for
so long. I noticed that my hormones were going crazy however my jealousy
consisted of asking a lot of questions because I felt like my ex was hiding
something. I realized tho that the jealousy that I felt had more to do with
the my ex being the wrong guy for me…Oh and he did run out on me and the
kids later lol…before we separated he was busy getting to know all the
neighbors. I had to deal with his lies, missing$ abusive bipolar moods and
substance abuse and much much more.Because he is a text book sociopath, he
blamed all of his problems on me…no joke. He nit picked me for
everything, cut me down in front of my kids, friends and family and he
would continuously bring up the time when I got jealous in the early part
of our relationship… even tho it had been years ago.The jealous feelings
I had at the beginning of the relationship was more of an alarm telling me
to get the hell away from him lol but…I’m sooooo glad I had two beautiful
kids with him 🙂
Great video! I have struggled with jealousy from both ends in my past
relationships. Two big things I have learned that have gotten rid of
jealousy are these:
1. You create your reality with thoughts and feelings. In this universe,
jealousy will drive your partner to others even when he/she had no
intention of that before.
2. Jealousy is based on the idea of competition. I ask myself, am I with my
love because she fits a checklist of the perfect woman? Perfect hair, job,
smile, attitude, grace? No. I’ve met lots of people who meet those desires
or requirements, but in the end, I choose her because of a CONNECTION I
feel to her. We have a connection where there is this silent, almost
telepathic layer of communication and she was brave enough to acknowledge
that. Ultimately, nobody can compete with this connection, no matter how
much more they can meet my desires. I love her for WHO she is and not what
she does for me. I was able to attract her into my life by loving myself
and accepting my own strengths and weaknesses. Ironically, she excels in
talent, beauty, wit, and grace and any other desire I’ve had, but those
things are all less important to me than the connection. When you structure
relationships on the connection you feel instead of making it a competition
for a prize partner, jealousy melts away–because it becomes based on
something deeper than how weak or strong you are at any moment.
Good video. Although the information was lost on me, not being the jealous
type (most of the time) I think you had some good points. It’ll be help
people out there who are feeling jealous in a relationship. Maybe I’ll get
into one some time soon, and remember this video when my trust wavers.
Thankss
How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship: https://youtu.be/la2Rh3-PeCk